Heads up: Challenging thoughts ahead! Forgive me if I offend you. This is only meant for good.
Do you know how many women tell me every day, “I’m just so hard on myself”…as if that is a good thing?
I have the ultimate paradox to propose to you in regards to transformation and change.
What if you would genuinely “be a student and not a judge of yourself”? (This is a classic thought you will hear in our community consistently.)
Novel thought, huh? But what if you could examine what you think, how you feel, react, respond and behave without the threat of condemnation from ANYONE, including yourself?
Does that freak you out? Sound lawless? Or out of control?
– OR –
Does that sound welcoming, intriguing, too good to be true, or just plain hard to wrap your head around?
Now, this mindset does not mean adaptation or resignation or that we are giving up – only that we are acknowledging and accepting ourselves (our circumstances and others) as we or they are for the present moment.
It is from this state that we can then have:
🔹 Peace
🔹 Space emotionally
🔹 Mental clarity
🔹 The ability to evaluate
🔹 The ability to make the appropriate changes
🔹 And then solve our own problems
I have learned that it is in this state, we have the optimal power to grow and change. Until you recognize the treatment you give yourself as a result of this thinking…”I’m just so hard on myself” as abuse, you will not make the necessary decisions to change it.
Until you recognize your judgement of self as harsh and cruel use of your own thoughts, you will not make the decision to change them. As you continue with this thinking and talking to yourself, you will find yourself shrinking, hiding, and becoming defensive, unable to change and grow.
- Stop making excuses for the way you talk and think about yourself.
- Stop dismissing this and worse yet even being proud of it.
- Stop normalizing it or even celebrating it.
- And finally, stop permitting yourself to be spoken to that way.
My bet is you would never talk to your child the way you talk to or think about yourself.
The paradox of transformation or secret to growth and change:
You cannot change who you are until you accept the way you are.
Our secret to success here at LYV starts with helping women become students of themselves and NOT judges!
Join us to practice this even for just 5 days, Monday through Friday 1/17-1/21. Just try it and let me know how you think and feel after.
Click here to register:
https://www.liveyourvision.us/riyl/
Excited to start the new year with some new practices that will bring change? Join us and let’s do this together.
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